David W. Earle

Boundary violations are deeply experienced.

Being judgmental is a form of attack keeping others off balance.

Since children from dysfunctional families are so good at judging others, they also judge themselves finding themselves unacceptable when compared to others, always assuming they are second best, not enough. This is a painful realization so often they hide behind righteous arrogance.

Everyone needs a place to be honest.

This imbalance causes resentments within the over-responsible and dependency with the irresponsible person and this dynamic becomes the destructive life-pattern not conducive to happy families.

Being able to say, __o,_ is a necessary ingredient in a healthy lifestyle.

Acceptance is the most beautiful word in any language; this beautiful concept can only exist when you allow other people to be who they are and do not imprison them with your definition of what is right, proper, correct, or other limiting criteria. Decreasing the black and white in your thinking allows for an expansive area of gray, allowing you to live your life and others to live there life. Acceptance sets us all free! This simple change of thought creates a wonderful space for happiness to thrive.

Our minds have a great capacity for deception. This does not mean we are necessarily dishonest but if we are not careful, when our brains do not have answers, our minds will create them.

Acceptance_ is the most beautiful word in the English language.

Only then can I fly.Only then can I be free -when Ilet go of me.

Like an empty bucket, my soul rings hollow when empty vibrates with emptiness _ hollow sound of loneliness. Every cell in my body does not want to be alone.My loneliness is frightening _an all consuming thought.

World__ definition of successmaterial validation of selfcold and naked substitutefor inner warmth and beauty.

The truth is, we tend to train people how we want to be treated. If others know you have wishy-washy boundaries then they are free to walk all over you; the results_you become a doormat. We have actually trained others to do this when we will allow people to wipe their muddy feet on us. After all, we are doormats.

Children have empty erasable white boards upon which big people write indelibly imprinted messages into their tender subconscious minds.

This wonderful gray of acceptance resides between the extremes of black and white thinking; looking for serenity, explore the gray. Part of that acceptance is understanding that life is hard and involves life and death. Part of that acceptance is that I am responsible for my actions.

Is God like the Greek god, Zeus, sending down lightning bolts to cause catastrophic events? Does God decree when tragic or untimely deaths occur? Does God have a list and when your time is up, you die? Is it __od__ will_ these events happen? On the other hand, do tragic events happen because of laws of nature or the law of averages?

Twirling round __ round -faster and faster _she dreams this circular motionwill take her home, high in the heavens where hurt is onlyan earthly world.

Change is threatening to the status quo.