individuality

He remembered that she was pretty, and, more, that she had a special grace in the intimacy of life. She had the secret of individuality which excites and escapes.

Life is two things. Life is morality _ life is adventure. Squire and master. Adventure rules, and morality looks up the trains in the Bradshaw. Morality tells you what is right, and adventure moves you. If morality means anything it means keeping bounds, respecting implications, respecting implicit bounds. If individuality means anything it means breaking bounds _ adventure.

Speak in your own voice about the things that matter to you.

What did I fear, and why? _ I, to whom the night had beena more familiar facethan that of man __, in whom that element of hereditary superstition from which none of us is altogether free had given to solitude and darkness and silence only a more alluring interest and charm!

Living a lie is painful, and doesn__ do anyone any good. I had to be true to myself, because, either way, God would know if I was lying.

Without our individual kinks we would all be flat as boards.

I think the reward for conformity is that everyone likes you except yourself.

Nothing is more ridiculous than one person telling another how to live.

Hold everything very carefully unless it is your lover__ back. Then, become metal, become teeth, do not gentle yourself for any man. Do not change for the ones who think thatyou should be softer, less mouth, less voice. You do not owe regrowth to anyone but yourself. When they begin to ask for you to shape yourself around them, leave. Shut the door firmly. Do not look back.

Here__ what I believe. We have control over ourselves at every single moment. We don__ control the world. We don__ control other people (or at least, we shouldn__.) But we are in control of our experience at all times.

Individuality is different than isolation. Isolation is trying to do everything on your own, living life by yourself. Isolation happens when you choose not to be involved in any communities, making sure you keep a safe distance from people in your life. I__ not recommending isolation. Science, psychology, and religion all suggest long term isolation is dangerous and unhealthy.

You are not who you think you are.

The parts of me that used to think I was different or smarter or whatever, almost made me die.

The worst thing to call somebody is crazy, it's dismissive. 'But I don't understand this person', so they're crazy. That's bullshit cause people are not crazy, they strong people, maybe their environment is a little sick.

The third gift is Courage. May you speak and act with confidence and use courage to follow your own path.

What did the Romans say? __e gustibus non est disputandum_: It is worthless to discuss personal taste. It is called 'personal' for a reason.

You shouldn't want to be like everyone else. Then you wouldn't be like you.

Style is when they're running you out of town and you make it look like you're leading the parade.