healing-insights

Love is a powerful force. There is nothing in this world, no other energy, as powerful as the force of genuine, unconditional love.

If you did not live lovingly and love deeply, you would not feel the pain of separation. But neither would you feel the joy, passion, and happiness that living fully and loving deeply bring.

We have laws about human rights in place for a reason and even if those laws are so often not enforced BY the law, these laws teach us our rights as human beings. I was shocked when I first discovered them, but at the same time I found them empowering; especially the ones about emotional abuse and neglect. Always remember that we are healing from the damage and that before the damage can be overcome, it has to be acknowledged.Acceptance in the context of accepting what happened is not the same thing as acceptance of the person who did it. Accepting the way a person __s_ does not apply when abuse or mistreatment is involved. There is a big difference in accepting someone__ __aults_, verses accepting abusive treatment.

There is a moment in our healing journey when our denial crumbles; we realize our experience and it's continued effects on us won't "just go away". That's our breakthrough moment. It's the sun coming out to warm the seeds of hope so they can grow our personal garden of empowerment.

Generally the rational brain can override the emotional brain, as long as our fears don__ hijack us. (For example, your fear at being flagged down by the police can turn instantly to gratitude when the cop warns you that there__ an accident ahead.) But the moment we feel trapped, enraged, or rejected, we are vulnerable to activating old maps and to follow their directions. Change begins when we learn to "own" our emotional brains. That means learning to observe and tolerate the heartbreaking and gut-wrenching sensations that register misery and humiliation. Only after learning to bear what is going on inside can we start to befriend, rather than obliterate, the emotions that keep our maps fixed and immutable.

Your instincts may tell you that you can__ survive if you experience feelings. But they are leftover child instincts. They__e the ones that first told you to freeze your feelings. They themselves are frozen and haven__ grown with the rest of you. These instincts don__ know that you__e far more capable of learning to cope with overwhelming emotion now than when you were a [child].

What you feel, you can heal.

If you have the tendency to repress your anger, you have lost touch with an important part of yourself. Getting angry is a way to gain back that part of yourself by asserting your rights, expressing your displeasure with a situation, and letting others know how you wish to be treated. It can motivate you to make needed changes in a relationship or other areas of your life. Finally it can let others know that you expect to be respected and treated fairly.

When you sit alone and think out your thoughts _ then that is your loudest cry!