Debra Fileta

Healthy people will marry healthy people because you will always end up with the person whom you believe you deserve.

When we see marriage as our sole purpose, we find ourselves with nowhere to go when we finally arrive.

God is after the bigger picture of your life. He is writing your story. I'm about to say something that may seem antithetical to this book, but need you to hear this: your story has far more to do with finding God's unique calling and purpose for your life than it does with finding the love of your life.

I recently heard a talk about identity in which the speaker said it's almost as though we are born into a world in which we are constantly being labeled by others -- our parents, our friends, our family, and people we don't even know. Each person, from the outside looking in, comes up with a label to slap onto us without our permission. Some labels are kind and some are truthful, but many of them are lies. And sometimes we leave the negative labels on so long that we believe what they say; we allow those labels to define us.

Because I had no awareness of who I was or what I needed, I found myself settling for a mediocre relationship rather than holding out for what was best.