Cathy Burnham Martin

Should we __xpect_ our physical, sexual, intellectual, and emotional intimacies to automatically continue throughout a marriage? Nope. At least, not in my opinion. But I do think we should be able to expect both partners to protect and preserve the sanctity of these intimacies. That, to me, is part of honest loyalty.

Appreciation and respect are mutual needs. We may be wired differently as men and women, but some needs are parallel human needs.

We would not want the joy of physical and sexual intimacy to fade after years together. We need to also remember to keep our intellectual and emotional intimacy every bit as sacred.

Cheating is pure hypocrisy. Our partner deserves better than that. If we don__ love someone, we should not be with them. That would also be hypocrisy.

It__ amazing how many cheaters and liars believe they won__ be caught. News Flash: In today__ age of technology, there won__ just be a paper trail. There will be multiple electronic and digital trails, as well.

Life belongs to optimists. Pessimists are just viewers. Making it real, starts with our attitude.

Skip the urge to respond to a road rage invitation. I find that my days are far more smooth and pleasant when I don__ give someone the leverage to annoy or stress me. Just smile, giggle to yourself, or wave __i_ with a wag of your pinky finger, if you must. But then the incident is over, and no stress or annoyance remains, at least not in my car. The self-centered driver has the negative attitude. Don__ let someone else__ poor behavior choices become contagious.

No one needs to be around someone who dulls the shine on a brand new penny.

Whether we know it or choose to admit it, we are either an Encourager or a Discourager. We each make a choice as to which type we will be_ every day. Discouragers bring __tresspools.__ call any of those places that add unnecessary stress and aggravation __tresspools._ They are just as stinky and rotten as cesspools, but __tresspools_ wreak of tension, strain, anxiety, worry, hassle, pressure, and emotional trauma.

We are imperfect humans and are bound to need attitude adjustments from time to time.