letting-go

Have you ever wondered why we bury and cremate our dead? Nothing to do with hygiene, it__ just so we don__ have to see the reality of death. You know, the Zoroastrians used to leave their dead in open places for the birds to eat. Now that__ a far more honest way to go, don__ you agree? Everyone can see what happens. It makes us live our lives more potently. That__ how I want to go, at my end: openly. Not ashamed of death, but embracing it.

The rose has toldIn one simplicityThat never lifeRelinquishes a bloomBut to bestowAn ancient confidence.

When someone you love says goodbye you can stare long and hard at the door they closed and forget to see all the doors God has open in front of you.

He had felt viable being near her or knowing she was listening to him or having the comfort of their casual meeting within a dream. With her, he simply and effortlessly felt better. They all felt better, unburdened, cared for, and heard. Being connected to her eased his suffering as he gave her his. It was only when she began to drown in the cumulation of commingled torments that to save whatever part of her was left, she disconnected, and when she did, his suffering returned and remained with him longer than she had. But instead of saving herself, it was the additional burden of her own anguish from letting them all go that took her breath and inevitably pulled her under.

Spiritual growth involves giving up the stories of your past so the universe can write a new one.

How would your life be different if you learned to let go of things that have already let go of you? From relationships long gone, to old grudges, to regrets, to all the 'could__e' and 'should__e,' to the dead friendships you still hang on to... Free yourself from the burden of a past you cannot change.

The bottom line is this; when one person stops being a part of your life, another one will come, and fill that empty space. Leave the ones who left in the past, right where they belong, and never look back.

Just because someone has been in your life for many years, doesn__ mean there shouldn__ be a point at which you finally decide to let go.

Sometimes there are things in our lives that aren__ meant to stay. Sometimes the changes we don__ want are the changes we need to grow." - W.J. Dlor

It is not memories but the person we have become because of those past experiences that we should treasure. This is the lesson these keepsakes teach us when we sort them. The space in which we live should be for the person we are becoming now, not the person we were in the past. P.118

Well, I think the first thing to do when trying to let go of the past is to accept it. Denial only delays the problem for later. Deal with it now.

By handling each sentimental item and deciding what to discard, you process your past. If you just stow these things away in a drawer or cardboard box, before you realise it, your past will become a weight that holds you back and keeps you from living in the here and now. Pg.116-117

It's hard getting momentum riding a bike up hill... It's hard getting momentum when you're dragging around all the pain from your past.

I didn't much like it, this grudge-holding against the past.

Today expect something good to happen to you no matter what occurred yesterday. Realize the past no longer holds you captive. It can only continue to hurt you if you hold on to it. Let the past go. A simply abundant world awaits. (January 11)

In many cases, people hold on so tightly to their past pains to avoid letting go of the __xcuses_ and the fear of having to be accountable for their life.

It's a tiring game resenting the scars and the fearful memories.

We're all guilty of dedicating time to people who didn't value it.