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ASK YOURSELF: Have you found that being nice to some people is simply not effective? When might it be wise to throw down the gauntlet and get tough or confrontational?

What is easy for one person may be terrifying for another. Not all people have developed an unshakable confidence to kick butt and conquer. How can meek and quiet wallflowers, both women and men, join the ranks of the risk takers and event shakers? The first step is to ask yourself how you may be feeling stuck and then get moving.

Some people not only burn their bridges, but they also torch the town! With all their deeds of drama and destruction, they leave behind an aftermath of distrust, disrespect, and disappointment. And for what? This behavior creates immeasurable suffering in all directions. It ruins reputations and business deals, shatters lives__nd closes doors which can never be re-opened. These repercussions can be prevented or avoided by simply BEING NICE.

Life rewards action. To get from where you are now to where you want to be requires forward movement and momentum. Although you may already know what it takes to bridge the gap, simply knowing what to do is not enough.

Orientation & Proximity. Be aware of the orientation between yourself and others so that you can be sensitive and responsive to their comfort zones.

Google Proves Nice Counts. On a quest to discover what it takes to build the "perfect team," Google launched the Project Aristotle initiative to find the answers. Over a period of several years, they surveyed hundreds of teams, conducted interviews, analyzed studies, and observed how team members interacted with one another.Google__ findings revealed that "psychological safety" is the key ingredient for creating a high-functioning team. It nurtures a healthy environment that encourages freedom of expression, engaging communication, empathy for one another, caring, support, respect and, drum roll please . . . BEING NICE!

Palm Reading 101_ Palm Up_ Conveys openness, service, humility, and sympathy._ Palm Down__emonstrates authority, superiority, and control._ Palm Vertical__hows you are meeting on equal terms with a mutually respectful greeting._ Palm Wet, Cold, or Clammy__ck! The "dead fish" is creepy. Make your hands warm and dry before reaching out to touch someone, please! It can also be conveyed as being nervous or over-excited._ Palm Perfect__his is my favorite. Better known as the "hand hug." While you are shaking hands with your right hand, place your left hand on top, wrapping both people in warmth and trust. This two-handed shake illustrates affection, caring, or concern, especially when you then reach up to grasp their arm or shoulder.

Considerations & Exceptions for Impressive Handshakes_ Be mindful of a person__ age; be tender with arthritic hands. In that case, a loose and gentler handshake is a gesture of sensitivity and compassion._ Show interest; even if your right hand is full, offer your left hand. _ Demonstrate respect when you are caught in an introduction while seated; try to stand. _ Be instinctive about when to allow the length of your handshake to linger to express unity, connection, or sympathy.

Action is the key to creating the changes needed to propel you toward your chosen outcomes and help you achieve your relationship goals. How are you allocating your time, energy, and activities to __ctivate your awesome_ and contribute to making a positive first impression?

Polite people tend to be more respected, admired, and appreciated than their rude counterparts.

To cultivate bravery and courage, practice, practice, practice. Each time you test your bravery you grow your self-assurance and increase your comfort to a greater degree. Repetition helps build confidence and competence. You did it; now do it again!

To cultivate bravery and courage, may the Force be with you. Whether you fortify yourself with a positive mental attitude, affirmations, faith in God, prayer, and meditation, or an innate sense of personal destiny, you have the power to summon your courage and be brave. __ake it so, Number One!

Your manners are critical for both making a positive first impression and creating success in life, love, and business.

To cultivate bravery and courage, Do It Scared. Being scared is a precursor to bravery, otherwise, it wouldn__ be bravery, would it? Mustering the courage to stretch beyond your familiar territory is a rewarding act in itself.

To cultivate bravery and courage, reduce uncertainty by being prepared. As Zig Ziglar once said, __uccess happens when opportunity meets preparation._ Preparing well for potential outcomes will provide you with a safety net if there is a hiccup, glitch, or temporary setback.

Without civilized social graces, not only is life more difficult, but a positive first impression can be destroyed as fast as it is made.

Regardless of the trends we see in the deterioration of morality, respect, and values, wise people will still strive to take the high road to rise above the ever-increasing rudeness and stand apart from the crowd.

And as is often the case, the people who would benefit the most from reading a book like this are the ones least likely to buy and read it. For you, however, this chapter will serve as a sterling reminder to make your manners shine.