counseling

Don__ let mental blocks control you. Set yourself free. Confront your fear and turn the mental blocks into building blocks.

I've had a lot of therapists, so I've had the opportunity to approach my fear in many different ways. I've faced it head on and sideways and tried to tiptoe up behind it.

You have the chief spark of your health's fire, for you have true knowledge of the hand that guides the universe.

In populations experiencing trauma across a wide variety of settings, the portion of those experiencing ongoing PTSD is remarkably similar _ one third. Ecclesiastes says woe to him who falls alone, but that the cord of THREE strands is not easily broken. Apparently deep in our human wiring is the resilience to be a buttress for those feeling overcome.

Should you operate upon your clients as objects, you risk reducing them to less than human. Following the culture of appropriation and mastery your clients become a kind of extension of yourself, of your ego. In the appropriation and objectification mode, your clients_ well-being and success in treatment reflect well upon you. You __id_ something to them, you made them well. You acted upon them and can take the credit for successful therapy or treatment. Conversely, if your clients flounder or regress, that reflects poorly on you. On this side of things the culture of appropriation and mastery says that you are not doing enough. You are not exerting enough influence, technique or therapeutic force. What anxiety this can breed for some clinicians! DBT offers a framework and tools for a treatment that allows clients to retain their full humanity. Through the practice of mindfulness, you can learn to cultivate a fuller presence to the moments of your life, and even with your clients and your work with them. This presence potentiates an encounter between two irreducible human beings, meeting professionally, of course, and meeting humanly. The dialectical framework, which embraces contradictions and gives you a way of seeing that life is pregnant with creative tensions, allows for your discovery of your limits and possibilities, gives you a way of seeing the dynamic nature of reality that is anything but sitting still; shows you that your identity grows from relationship with others, including those you help, that you are an irreducible human being encountering other irreducible human beings who exert influence upon you, even as you exert your own upon them. Even without clinical contrivance.

Perfectionism is adaptive if you are mindful of your humanhood.

Although the client-centered approach had its origin purely within the limits of the psychological clinic, it is proving to have implications, often of a startling nature, for very diverse fields of effort.

Unfortunately, there is no expiration date on grief

All you need is one safe anchor to keep you grounded when the rest of your life spins out of control

Respect your needs and limitations as you work through your grief and begin to heal

Allow yourself to be an anchor and anchored by others.

The loss of my child broke my spirit.

When those you love die, the best you can do is honor their spirit for as long as you live. You make a commitment that you__e going to take whatever lesson that person or animal was trying to teach you, and you make it true in your own life_ it__ a positive way to keep their spirit alive in the world, by keeping it alive in yourself.

Healing doesn__ mean forgetting or making the memories insignificant. Healing means refocusing

The loss of a child exploits the emotions of each individual it encounters.

Letting go of the past, is like opening the flood gates of healing to be set free.

The benefits of forgiveness are limitless.

In simple, the past is a time gone by and no longer exists in the present moment, but we choose to allow this past to occupy our minds, our bodies and our very existence.