controlling-parents

We are all entitled to our own share of mistakes and learning experiences in life. No one should take them away from us. Not even our parents.

Who said that parents_ beliefs should be adopted by their children?

They (parents) use this guilt-tripping to stop you from fulfilling your plans, but most important, from believing something they don__ (something which contradicts their beliefs)

There is no better way to crush someone__ self-confidence than to tell this person that her / his choice was wrong, and that she / he should have listened to us (parents). Because, obviously, we know how to make the right choices and she / he does not.

Our parents are not the only people on this planet, and we should not base our life choices on what they want (what will bring them a peace of mind, satisfaction, and give them a reason to brag), but we should make those choices keeping in mind that there are upwards of 7,5 billion people in this world, and that we should use our talents and energy trying to improve the lives of as many of them as possible.

They (parents) have been doing this (imposing their beliefs about life on you) since you were born. That__ more than enough to establish a habit.

If parents want __uccess stories_ to share at gatherings they should provide themselves with those, and they should not use their children for that purpose.

Mistakes are part of life. And yet, for some reason, most parents in this world, wish their children made no mistakes at all, or as little as possible.

It__ entirely on our children to build their best futures. Not on us, parents. And we should be imprinting this message on our children__ brains from as early as possible.

We feel stuck in a rut, unable to say __o_ to our parents, unable to put an end to their controlling behavior, unable to grab hold of our own lives, simply because we fear that we will hurt, insult, disrespect or disappoint our parents (entire families).

The fear of abandonment forced me to comply as a child, but I__ not forced to comply anymore. The key people in my life did reject me for telling the truth about my abuse, but I__ not alone. Even if the consequence for telling the truth is rejection from everyone I know, that__ not the same death threat that it was when I was a child. I__ a self-sufficient adult and abandonment no longer means the end of my life.

A bird cannot love freely when caged.

Abuse grows from attitudes and values, not feelings. The roots are ownership, the trunk is entitlement, and the branches are control.

People have a much greater chance of finding something they__l enjoy doing and making those greatest contributions when they trust themselves and are free to make their own life choices (are not marionettes in the hands of their parents).

Pushing them (children) into a career that is __ractical_/ __afe_/ prestigious/ well-paying doesn__ count as help. It__ how parents satisfy their own needs.

It__ a mistake to believe that they (parents) are responsible for their children__ best future. This responsibility is on their children, and that__ the message they should be conveying to their children on a daily basis.

We grow up in a belief system according to which children should always make their parents proud and happy (instead of making themselves proud and happy) - and that__ unfortunately the belief system in most cultures.

That__ not our role here, provide our parents with a __uccess story_ to share at gatherings. Our role here is to contribute the best we can to the society. Use our talents and make sure we add the greatest value possible to other people__ lives.