child-abuse

You're a survivor because every day you make a choice not to be governed by their harsh words or actions. No one has the right to take away your happiness

Sometimes the guys who look the most normal are the biggest pervs of all.

The happy family is a myth for many.

People ask, how can a person abuse a child? I ask, how can so many 'good' people not do anything about it?

Anyone who shames survivors of trauma and abuse for not healing, is a person who has no compassion for life's suffering

If you could get anything at all off Santa, what would it be?_ I asked for a fire engine and sweets. Bunty exclaimed in delight, __anta will get you that, but you and Scott will need to leave out a bowl of milk and some carrots for Rudolph._ __ho__ Rudolph?_ I asked. Bunty told me in confidence that Rudolph was Santa__ reindeer and that he helped pull all the children__ toys in the world over the snow. I couldn__ wait. In readiness for Rudolph, Scott, Martha, Bunty and I picked out four of the biggest carrots from a bag in the kitchen, which we then washed. We found a big bowl that we used to lick the cream out of, which we filled with milk. We put the bowl along with the carrots under the Christmas tree, with all the other children__ offerings. Then Bunty and Martha came in and washed us, put us to bed and read us a story, before kissing us good night. On their way out they said, __hen you wake up, Santa will have been'.

When there is abuse by itself it's scary enough. When there is abuse within a religious setting it is so terrifying to people... nobody can bear it when it's linked to religion, but when it's linked to religion that is not mainstream it seems to frighten people more. As if yes, abuse exists, Satanism exists, but you can't have Satanist abuse.

With regards pedophilia I have always looked on it as that _ pedophilia. I thought that one religion is no different to the other and I am now truthfully beginning to think that.

Are Child Molesters Really Just Victims Themselves? "All victims are offenders," one professional challenged me at a conference, "and all offenders are victims. How does your work address that?"My work doesn't address that because I don't believe there's any evidence for that assertion. Obviously, not all victims are offenders, but it is also likely that most offenders weren't victims. The studies that find a high proportion of child molesters who were victims of child sexual abuse themselves are almost always based on self-report, and even there, study results differ dramatically. Studies show the number of child molesters who were themselves molested as children ranges from 22 percent in some studies to 82 percent in others.[101]

Maternal absence, in one form or another, is always found in the background of the incest romance. Womens literature on incest generally treats the theme of maternal absence tragically. Mens literature trivializes it or treats it comically. And clinical literature tends to treat it judgmentally.

Because children take everything personally, they believe that if they are being mistreated, it's because they haven't been __ood enough._ Being good as an adult makes them believe, incorrectly, that they have some control in life. They think that they will be rewarded for their goodness and that it will protect them from harm.

All these do-gooders make it sound like you just have to repent and off you go to heaven, but what about all the atrocities the Catholic religion did to us? Who pays for that! They just took over our lives!!

Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up will bring escape and freedom. But the personality formed in the environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life. The survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and initiative. She approaches the task of early adulthood___stablishing independence and intimacy___urdened by major impairments in self-care, in cognition and in memory, in identity, and in the capacity to form stable relationships. She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to create a new life, she reencounters the trauma.

While some accused and convicted child molesters have inappropriately influenced the media, the public, and many in the clinical and legal professions by claiming that traumatic amnesia does not occur in child sexual abuse, workers in the field of trauma psychology have accumulated solid empirical evidence over the past 100 years that it does occur and is common. Its existence and natural history are documented throughout the clinical literature. from:Traumatic amnesia: The evolution of our understanding from a clinical and legal perspective, Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity: The Journal of Treatment & Prevention, Volume 4, Issue 2, 1997

Once upon a time, __hat woman_ seemed more comfortable with herself. Once upon a time, __hat woman_ appreciated a slimmer physique and relaxed into natural poses that felt less rehearsed. Once upon a time, __hat woman_ matched the path she had laid out for herself. Her closed eyes now threatened to open at any second, her tight skin bursting with the artificial flavors and toxins she had been assured were good for her. __hat woman_ had surrendered herself to anything that would make her path clear. __hat woman_ expected everyone to buy into the lies that she did. Her self-worth depended on it. So would mine.

THOSE WHO SAID IT CAN'T BE DONE...SHOULDN'T GET IN MY WAY WHILE I'M DOING IT!

The Persian rug served as their country with people living injade green jungles and others living in an opal cream sky.They were so light. No one would ever be able to tell thatthey had lived there.

No matter what tight corner I was in, I was capable of getting myself out of it _ not God!