be-selective

The destination is not the journey. The destination is the person you choose to enjoy the journey with.

The most important quality in the man you decide to marry should be the ability to make you laugh. Beauty fades, careers end, money comes and goes, religions change, children grow up and move away, spouses get sick, struggles happen, family members die, senility sets in when your older, but the ability to make you giggle every day is the most precious gift God can give you to get through all of it.

A man worth being with is one_That never lies to youIs kind to people that have hurt himA person that respects another__ lifeThat has manners and shows people respectThat goes out of his way to help peopleThat feels every person, no matter how difficult, deserves compassionWho believes you are the most beautiful person he has ever metWho brags about your accomplishments with prideWho talks to you about anything and everything because no bad news will make him love you lessThat is a peacemakerThat will see you through illnessWho keeps his promisesWho doesn__ blame others, but finds the good in them That raises you up and motivates you to reach for the starsThat doesn__ need fame, money or anything materialistic to be happyThat is gentle and patient with childrenWho won__ let you lie to yourself; he tells you what you need to hear, in order to help you growWho lives what he says he believes inWho doesn__ hold a grudge or hold onto the past Who doesn__ ask his family members to deliberately hurt people that have hurt himWho will run with your dreamsThat makes you laugh at the world and yourselfWho forgives and is quick to apologizeWho doesn__ betray you by having inappropriate conversations with other womenWho doesn__ react when he is angry, decides when he is sad or keep promises he doesn__ plan to keepWho takes his children__ spiritual life very seriously and teaches by exampleWho never seeks revenge or would ever put another person downWho communicates to solve problemsWho doesn__ play games or passive aggressively ignores people to hurt themWho is real and doesn__ pretend to be something he is notWho has the power to free you from yourself through his positive outlookWho has a deep respect for women and treats them like a daughter of GodWho doesn__ have an ego or believes he is better than anyoneWho is labeled constantly by people as the nicest person they have ever metWho works hard to provide for the familyWho doesn__ feel the need to drink alcohol to have a good time, smoke or do drugsWho doesn't have to hang out a bar with his friends, but would rather spend his time with his familyWho is morally free from sinWho sees your potential to be greatWho doesn't think a woman's place has to be in the home; he supports your life mission, where ever that takes youWho is a gentlemanWho is honest and lives with integrityWho never discusses your private business with anyoneWho will protect his familyWho forgives, forgets, repairs and restoresWhen you find a man that possesses these traits then all the little things you don__ have in common don__ matter. This is the type of man worth being grateful for.

It's a lot harder to get someone OUT of your life than it is to let them IN, so please_be selective.

Empowered Women 101: A confident woman takes him for exactly who he is, not who she wants him to be. He is who he is, take it or leave it before you get married. This is the ground level of your partner. Together you can grow from here. However, if you are still teaching basic kindergarten values such as kindness, compassion, respect or honesty then you shouldn't complain if your ground level has a basement.