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Quinton: I think if every person had a Nova Reed in this world, then life would be a little sunnier.

It is not a coincidence that you and your partner are together. You each have something to learn from one another _. The most important thing you can do to support your partner in his [or her] recovery is to show that you are truly supportive and on his [or her] side.

Compassion is the most powerful tool you can have when it comes to healing addictions of any kind. Put simply, what your partner needs most from you is compassion.

Human beings have a deep need to bond and form connections. If we can__ connect with each other, we will connect with whatever we can find _ It is disconnection that drives addiction.

Don't ever believe that Narcissists don't understand they have hurt you. They know exactly what they did and why they did it. The reason they can't stop their abuse is because the narcissistic supply is their addiction. Unlike, drug addicts that need their fix to feel normal, narcissists need to feel significant. This is their addiction. Even if it takes destructive ways to have this emotional balance they will pursue it. Your feelings don't count only the supply does. The greater the supply the greater the drama in your life as they pursue it. So, get over believing they don't understand. They do understand. You just found out and got in the way of their easy access to greater supply than you.

Don't drive a car in the dream, else you won't drive it on earth. Don't wish to become, else you won't become. Don't associate with fools, else your ancestors will be insulted. Don't be addicted to wine, else your pocket will be empty. Don't be drunk, else you'll be attacked.

You are not an alcoholic or an addict. You are not incurably diseased. You have merely become dependent on substances or addictive behavior to cope with underlying conditions that you are now going to heal, at which time your dependency will cease completely and forever.

May you begin living beyond.

See, I am very dependent... on beauty and peace of the world... on loyalty of friends... on love in families... on happiness and health of children. And I do not want to be free as long as I have it all...

Habits are good if you have the habit of the best.

The past does not define me, it ignites me. The past is not a piece of me, it has placed me

Many partners of addicts have told me they feel bad about themselves for staying in the relationship because of the betrayal they__e experienced. They imagine that the people who know their past judge them to be stupid for staying with the person who__ caused them so much pain. I often counter this thinking, explaining that leaving may seem quick and easy because they can pretend they__e okay and the problem has disappeared. However, if you leave your relationship, you__l be stuck with your pain and sorrow without the person you loved to help you sort it out. Why is this true? Because even though it feels as if your pain comes from your partner, it__ actually coming from inside you.

The only way to truly help most drug addicts and most alcoholics is to__nstead of them__hange reality.

The only way to make sure that the Hand didn't get to you would have been to kill your brother. I could've done it, but I didn't. I just gave him some drugs.""You gave an addict in rehab drugs, and you want credit for it?""Of course it sounds bad when you put it that way.

Changing a Habit is Never Difficult.Difficult is to Address Your Unwillingness to do it

We're all dreaming,_ Arctor said. If the last to know he's an addict is the addict, then maybe the last to know when a man means what he says is the man himself, he reflected. He wondered how much of the garbage that Donna had overheard he had seriously meant. He wondered how much of the insanity of the day--his insanity--had been real, or just induced as a contact lunacy, by the situation. Donna, always, was a pivot point of reality for him; for her this was the basic, natural question. He wished he could answer.

I chose to share both the good and the bad parts of my story, and of my imagination, so that it might help even one person realize that there is hope. You are not alone. And it does get better. I promise you it__ worth it.

I recovered from recovering so no longer celebrate not doing bad things to defend myself as good. I added new bad for good measure.