Sonja Lyubomirsky

a shift in thinking_ toward someone who has wronged you, __uch that your desire to harm that person has decreased and your desire to do him good (or to benefit your relationship) has increased._ Forgiveness, at a minimum, is a decision to let go of the desire for revenge and ill-will toward the person who wronged you. It may also include feelings of goodwill toward the other person. Forgiveness is also a natural resolution ofthe grief process, which is the necessary acknowledgment of pain and loss.

Gratitude is an antidote to negative emotions, a neutralizer of envy, hostility, worry, and irritation. It is savoring; it is not taking things for granted; it is present oriented.