Rita M. Gross

If one does not make an ego out of gender, one would still know whether one is a man or a woman, gay, straight, bisexual, transgender__hatever else we may think of. But those identities need to fit very loosely and be worn very lightly. All sense of privilege or deprivation that has developed around one__ gender identity, all rigidity regarding proper roles and behaviors for the various genders, must be cut through.