Nancy Friday

Do women dress for men or women? I__e always wondered why that eternally provocative question is put in terms of approval - as if the heart of the matter, the answer, were indeed a question of approval by either sex. But the question is never satisfactorily answered because it is incorrectly posed. It__ disapproval, the fear of it, that motivates most women, and with disapproval it doesn__ matter where it comes from.

Because society would rather we always wore a pretty face, women have been trained to cut off anger.

I think the thing I miss most in our age is our manners. It sounds so old-fashioned in a way. But even bad people had good manners in the old days, and manners hold a community together, and manners hold a family together; in a way, they hold the world together.

If women really want equality, we have to wipe the slate clean. It no longer matters in the largest sense what men did to us for the last 200 or 300 years.

To say something nice about themselves this is the hardest thing in the world for people to do.

No man can be really free in bed with a woman who is not.