Joel Derfner

Next time, involve me in what you__e planning. How had I gone so easily from feeling excluded to doing the excluding? Did I dislike the reminder that I hadn__ always been on the inside looking out? Was I so relieved to be there that I didn__ notice the people who still wanted desperately to be invited in? Had I learned that the only way to be part of a society was to shun its outcasts?

In intimate conversation I am as supportive and positive as the next man, but gatherings of happy people make me miserable. I long to share in the collective joy, but instead I am racked with anxiety.