Jennifer Cox

There are only so many hours in the day, and chances are that if you have a successful career it's your job that takes up most of them. As the economy flourishes are we in the grip of an emotional recession? Have we made our jobs the primary relationships in our lives, settling for a so-so boyfriend because that's all we have the time to either find or maintain?

Imagine yourself winning?.. Wouldn't that make you overconfident?''Not at all... It's called "positive visualisation", like being a runner: see yourself making it across the finish line, you pace yourself better, run a better race too. See yourself winning at poker, you make the winning calls. See yourself as a loser, you've not got the self-belief or determination to play well, no matter how much money you gamble.'Chester - to JenniferI was shocked to hear the words of the Love Professor echoed by Chester: like yourself and you'll win; think you're a loser, and sure enough you'll end up losing.

...you fall in love in three stages: lust, attraction and attachment.

...this is a way of handling a fear of losing control. One way - which is perhaps not the best way - to try and regain control is to talk, talk, talk.Love Professor - to Jennifer