Albert Ellis

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.

You have considerable power to construct self-helping thoughts, feelings and actions as well as to construct self-defeating behaviors. You have the ability, if you use it, to choose healthy instead of unhealthy thinking, feeling and acting.

Stop shoulding on yourself

I think the future of psychotherapy and psychology is in the school system. We need to teach every child how to rarely seriously disturb himself or herself and how to overcome disturbance when it occurs.

We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today.

People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.

There's no evidence whatsoever that men are more rational than women. Both sexes seem to be equally irrational.

For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.

I hope to die in the saddle seat.

There are three musts that hold us back: I must do well. You must treat me well. And the world must be easy.

The art of love ... is largely the art of persistence.

The art of love is largely the art of persistence.