Adam Grant

As Chris Granger, executive vice president at the NBA, explains, "Talented people are attracted to those who care about them. When you help someone get promoted out of your team, it's a short-term loss, but it's a clear long-term gain. It's easier to attract people, because word gets around that your philosophy is to help people.

Convictions in our ideas is dangerous not only because it leaves us vulnerable to false positives, but also because it stops us from generating the requisite variety to reach our creative potential.

Practice makes perfect, but it doesn__ make new. The gifted learn to play magnificent Mozart melodies and beautiful Beethoven symphonies, but never compose their own original scores.

Having a sense of security in one realm gives us the freedom to be original in another. By covering our bases financially, we escape the pressure to publish half-baked books, sell shoddy art, or launch untested businesses. When

Practice makes perfect, but it doesn__ make new

Originality brings more bumps in the road, yet it leaves us with more happiness and a greater sense of meaning.

Practice makes perfect, but it doesn__ make new.

Reasoning does create a paradox: it leads both to more rule following and more rebelliousness. By explaining moral principles, parents encourage their children to comply voluntarily with rules that align with important values and to question rules that don__. Good explanations enable children to develop a code of ethics that often coincides with societal expectations; when they don__ square up, children rely on the internal compass of values rather than the external compass of rules.

By looking on the bright side, we'll activate enthusiasm and turn on the go system.

From a relationship perspective, givers build deeper and broader connections.

I have two rules for a great book: make me think and make me smile.

When a salesperson truly cares about you, trust forms, and you're more likely to buy, come back for repeat business, and refer new customers.

Takers believe in a zero-sum world, and they end up creating one where bosses, colleagues and clients don't trust them. Givers build deeper and broader relationships - people are rooting for them instead of gunning for them.

When medical students focus on helping others, they're able to weather the slings and arrows of long hours and devastating health outcomes: they know their colleagues and patients are depending on them.

If we want girls to receive positive reinforcement for early acts of leadership, let's discourage bossy behavior along with banning bossy labels. That means teaching girls to engage in behaviors that earn admiration before they assert their authority.

For women to achieve equal representation in leadership roles, it's important that they have the backing of men as well as women.

In the conversation about women in leadership, male voices are noticeably absent.

The mark of higher education isn't the knowledge you accumulate in your head. It's the skills you gain about how to learn.