trauma-memory

As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself_The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage.

To forget and to repress would be a good solution if there were no more to it than that. But repressed pain blocks emotional life and leads to physical symptoms. And the worst thing is that although the feelings of the abused child have been silenced at the point of origin, that is, in the presence of those who caused the pain, they find their voice when the battered child has children of his own.