kindred-spirits

What makes one person approachable and another one not? That simple difference alone can make or break your success in your life, in your relationships, and in your career.

The approachable individuals are the first ones that I introduce myself to because they make me feel emotionally safe.

Approachable people . . . 1. Use body language to their advantage.2. Are open-minded to new people and new experiences.3. Encourage others to feel better about themselves.4. Are willing to be told not what they want to hear, but what they need to hear.5. Provide an inviting aura that is warm and comforting.6. Realize that authenticity and transparency earn trust.7. Intuitively tune into the feelings and needs of others.8. Are emotionally steady and respond appropriately when they sense awkwardness or discomfort in others.9. Radiate happiness and curbs cynicism. 10. Provide a safe environment for others to express themselves.11. Make others feel valued and appreciated.12. Listen and consider other people__ viewpoints and opinions.

Unfortunately, unapproachable leaders create a tense environment that may prevent their people from bringing their best strengths and talents or challenges and solutions forward.

There are new habits you can adopt starting NOW that make you approachable and encourage other people to engage with you.

An approachable person intuitively knows how to set new acquaintances at ease and create a safety net for them to be vulnerable and authentic.

When individuals feel comfortable approaching their leaders, their confidence to share ideas, discuss problems, and offer suggestions is strengthened. It emboldens them to take personal ownership and perform at higher levels within the organization.

Don't you love meeting an approachable person? They roll out the proverbial __elcome mat._ Their energy and engaging openness make us feel safe. They project the messages, __'m so glad to meet you. I like you. Tell me more about you. I'm so glad that you're here,_ without even saying a word.

Approachability is a crucial way of being that empowers you with an extraordinary edge to make a great first impression, invite interaction, build rapport, and win friends.

Guard your energy by setting boundaries, just saying 'no," and limiting your interactions with people who drain you. The measure__ow do they make you feel?

You magnetize what you are being. You give a smile . . . you get a smile back. If you point fingers with anger, you will get anger in return. If you are obsessing about scarcity, you will continue to live in lack. If you focus on nurturing friends, you will enjoy more enriching relationships.

Cheri Davis is a fun, energetic, positive, and beautiful friend. We both share a vibrant and positive energy which is a rare and wonderful quality. No matter what is going on in the world, we have a magic ability to energize each other and make the day better simply by speaking. She once said to me, __usan, our low is most people's high._ Indeed. We will not always match the energies of others, and when theirs is lower than ours, that can be a very good thing!

What saps your energy and drains your strength? If it makes you feel bad on the inside, it will make those around you feel bad too! Don__ be the energy vampire whom people want to avoid.

Be in the Now Moment__on__ squander your energy on a past you can__ change or a future which has not yet happened.

Use positive affirmations to shift your mindset and re-train your brain for positivity.

Without even realizing it, we magnetize people, opportunities, and outcomes. Many people continue to attract dysfunctional folks who bring trauma, drama, crisis, and negativity and then wonder why they are so miserable. Be cognizant of how you__e being because it is most certainly attracting what you__e receiving.

Ask anyone who has ever fallen in love at first sight and they will tell you__heir mutual chemistry created an instant attraction. We have all known friends who went on a first date and knew instantly that they would spend the rest of their life with that person. Or, they knew instantly there was no chance because there was no chemistry at all.

Ask yourself and become more aware__re you . . . _ Speaking poorly of others in judgment, gossip, and intolerance?_ Looking for, dwelling on, and obsessing over the negative?_ Being grumpy, negative, and infecting others with your bad attitude or victim mentality?